One child, two homes

Cuando hablamos sobre la coparentalidad, la gente se extraña de que una criatura viva en dos hogares. ¿Puede funcionar este tipo de organización familiar?

17 Mar · Co-parenting



When we talk about co-parenting as a new family alternative, we find that many people worry and are surprised to think that a child will live in two different homes instead of just one. However, this situation has always been a reality in families with divorced parents, and although it is not ideal in the view of those who believe only in the traditional nuclear family idea, the truth is that it works and does not have to become something. traumatic for our children.

Even so, raising a child between two homes will require responsibility and organization on the part of the co-parents, who will have to agree on the approach they want to give to the education of their children in the family and home environment.

Organizing family logistics

Regarding the organization of parental charges, each co-parenting couple must establish, based on their preferences, how they want to manage it, for example: families with half the time each parent, one weekend every two weeks, household rotation one week yes, another no... There really is no right or wrong option, the only thing that is right, in this case, is to decide a way of life that makes the creature feel good and that it manages to understand.

In addition, there are co-parenting couples who prefer to live very close or in the same building, so that the little ones can move at will between the two homes. Thus, if they are with one or the other, they can maintain contact with the two co-parents.

It is also important to note that the key to stability is to make it a habit. Educate the child so that he understands the change of home as something natural and that it falls within her routine, so that it does not suppose a burden for him. Establishing basic routines and parenting styles in both homes can be a good solution so that you don't experience a sudden change in scenery from one home to the other.

On the other hand, we believe that it is essential that the parent who is not in charge of her son can call him from time to time so that he feels closer and more connected to her days. In this way, the change of home will be easier, since she will not have the feeling that he is "abandoning" a part of her life every time he has to change houses. Another favorable option is family activities, something that will positively mark the little one and that will comfort him. It never hurts to organize a dinner, an outing or a plan all together so that you feel welcome and happy.

And last but not least, at Copaping we believe that it is very interesting to create a special space for the child, where her identity is celebrated and she can feel comfortable in both homes. For example, involve him in the choice of design and create a small shelter so that he is comfortable in it.

We want to end this article insisting that there is a wide range of possibilities to educate our children based on a co-parent bond and that the most important thing, as in any family context, is the attitude and desire to do things well. and give a good education.